Aaaaand the nutter comes out after a few months and I had to end it.
She convinced me to try long distance knowing my primary condition was I had a clock on how much time I'd give it. She'd have to move here at some point since I can't leave my kid. She said she'd absolutely move here if we things are good a year or so from now. Things were really good. She loves me, she blah blha blah.
Where it went downhill fast? Her faith. She's one of those who believes she's so in tune with faith that she knows God's will for her. It comes to her in a way she wouldn't explain becuase she said I wouldn't understand. But she felt God's will was for her to be there, where she is. And God comes first, so she'll stay there until he says it's time to leave, be it a year, 5 years, or 10 years. So I ended it. She didn't understand and didn't believe she mislead me at all. I told her if she changes her mind at God's perceived whim, that makes her unreliable and I really can't believe anything she'd ever say....because you can always just change your mind and credit God. She insisted it still could be very well a year and it does happen as planned. Of course I replied, or I could waste a year of of my life only to end up in the same place a year from now, only with a lot more miles on my truck, money wasted, and burning all my PTO from work.
If it wasn't over a distance, I could easily have tolerated the "God's will" thing. To believe everything will happen at God's will and rely solely on that, as if making life moves don't take human decisions and actions, is a level of absurdity I'll never understand in those type of people.