not to mention, if we're talking teenage pregnancy, who's stuck with having to make the decisions on the young girls desecrated body?
unwed teen mothers with babies from multiple fathers wish they had stereotypical fathers looking out for them i bet.
Wouldn't your daughter be the one making the decisions about her body unless she continues making bad decisions after getting pregnant? Legally you may have control, but that doesn't mean you're "stuck", because you can always actually see what your daughter thinks and possibly let her make her own choice!
Also, why does sex = pregnancy. I know we're talking about young people who struggle with self-control so the risk for pregnancy may always be there. But that's not true for every girl. Girls are more responsible than guys. Put her on the pill. Problem solved.
I guess I just don't see the rationality in expecting every human being to remain sexually inactive in today's society until...I'm actually confused here too....until what? As a father, when do you think it's ok for your kids to become sexually active? When they get married? When they find a loving, committed relationship?
If one of your sons has sex in the few next years do you think you will consider his body to be desecrated?
I'm really trying to understand this here...cuz like always...I have no clue how it feels to have a kid and I've never really known any women who I felt needed my protection on a regular basis from the scheming of guys (I've only felt the need to protect in specific instances, i.e. too drunk to care for themself).
i truly respect your views in that you're coming with open mind and an understanding that what you may or may not think could be slanted since you've not yet been there with respects to rearing children....you've always stated that and it's appreciated nonetheless.
unfortunately, there is a world of theory and a world of reality...theory takes a back seat when reality is calling.
the example i used was that of a teenage pregnancy...teens are hardly in a position to make those sort of decisions for themselves without the guidance and advice of those who are responsible for them...namely their parents....in THEORY, the child should be practicing good judgment (obviously not)...in REALITY, there is much work needed in guiding and advising.
in that same example, i meant 'stuck' in terms of the REALITY that ultimately, it will be the girl and her family's responsibility with regards to how they will address their daughters situation...in THEORY, it should be a joint effort...both boy and girl....so if you are the father of a pregnant teen, the REALITY is that you've got to deal in the worst case scenarios.
sex=pregnancy...obviously that's not the case but no sex = no pregnancy....now THAT is definitely the case....all we can do is positively reinforce that education and being a positive influence to society is all that matters at this young tender age...if you're doing a good job and your children buy into it, then you're doing better than the other guy who's struggling or who doesn't give a shit....the line between those who could give a shit and those who are sending bad messages is a fine, fine line.
there's no manual on what age is appropriate for sex...it's definitely a case by case basis...again - we are actively involved with our childrens lives and hope we are providing them a fighting chance in making their own decisions....supporting smutty shots of hannah montana aint supportive of that....that's for shit sure....ideally and in THEORY, marriage would be nice...in REALITY, i should hope the shenanigans of relations won't get in the way in getting an education, a career, a future.
if my son was having sex, i wouldn't consider him to have desecrated his body....i would however feel that way if my daughter was....having said that, i wouldn't be glorifying his conquests...that's idiotic....i wouldn't condone that either.
in the end, there is a double standard out there and for good reason.
girls (and their families) will have to bear the brunt of those bad decisions
boys do not.
in theory, boys should...in the reality, they don't have to.
